What’s right in your life?

There are two kinds of people in the world (gross generalization I know, but give me some leeway and just see where this goes!
–    those who look at what’s right in their lives,
–    and those who look at what’s wrong in their lives.

Quantum physics teaches us that nature/ life continually strives to be in balance. So nice things will happen to you, dreadful things will happen to you. Sometimes you’ll win and sometimes you’ll lose. That’s life.

The thing that makes the difference between being unhappy or sad is where our focus lies. If your focus is on what’s wrong, you will only notice and register the things that are wrong; you will spend your time thinking about how bad life is, and so it will be.

If your focus is on what’s right, you will notice the good things and the things that bring you pleasure. You will register what’s working in your life, and your world will feel good and right, and so it will be.

If you are wondering why on earth you married your spouse, or why you are working where you are, try changing your focus onto what is right. Spend one month looking for what’s right. Start by writing down one thing that’s right in your situation. Next day look for two things, next day three etc. Do this for a whole month and see where it takes you.

Remember every situation/ person has “good” and “bad” characteristics – choose your focus and raise your awareness of how your feelings of well-being are affected by your focus.  There will still be good and bad – that’s how life is. You have a choice, however, about how you would like to feel about life.

I am not saying that you must wear rose-tinted spectacles. It is useful every now and again to look at what’s wrong in your life. You must then decide what you can do differently to change this. If it’s someone else’s fault and you are not prepared to change anything yourself – then you are living in ‘victim’ mode and you will remain unhappy. Your power lies within yourself – you can change your thoughts, your actions and your attitude.

Yes, look at what’s wrong and then take action to change it. BUT continually focus on what is right and what’s working and you will find yourself in a more resourceful emotional state! You’ll simply be happier!


“A pessimist is a man who thinks all women are bad. An optimist is one who hopes they are.”

“It's better to be an optimist who is sometimes wrong than a pessimist who is always right”